Antifragility, Vulnerability, and Lobsters: Why Being Vulnerable Can Actually Make You Stronger

In our first post, we introduced the concept of antifragility — the ability to not only survive stress and adversity, but to thrive and become even stronger as a result of it.

So, how do we actually become antifragile? One important element is vulnerability. 

Vulnerability can be defined as the willingness to expose oneself to the risk of being injured, either physically or emotionally. It involves being open and receptive to new experiences and ideas, even if it means exposing ourselves to potential harm in the process.

Take lobsters, for example. When lobsters outgrow their exoskeletons, they become vulnerable to predators. In order to survive, they have to shed their old exoskeletons and grow new ones. This process is called molting.

During molting, lobsters are at their most vulnerable state. They can't move and are completely exposed to potential predators. But once they emerge from their new exoskeleton, they are bigger, stronger, and better equipped to handle future challenges.

Similarly, when we are vulnerable and open to new experiences, we are faced with a unique opportunity to  learn and grow from them. This is especially true when it comes to facing our fears and weaknesses. By acknowledging and embracing our vulnerabilities, we become more resilient and better able to handle life’s challenges.

Need some inspiration? Just look at Serena Williams. She's one of the greatest athletes of all time, but that doesn't mean she hasn't had her fair share of setbacks. In a recent interview, she talked about how she uses her vulnerability to fuel her determination and drive. "I think vulnerability is the key to growth," she said. "I think it's the key to building a strong team, building a strong family, building a strong anything."

Need more examples? Consider some of the most common ones below:

• Taking on tough competition that will expose your flaws and help you identify what you need to improve. 

• Asking a coach, mentor or teammate for help on something you don’t understand or can’t execute. 

• Acknowledging and working on weaknesses in your game.

• Sharing thoughts and feelings you’re struggling through with a teammate or coach. 

So, next time you're in the midst of adversity, remember the lobster.

Embrace the challenges and use them as an opportunity to grow and become antifragile.

As the popular saying goes: "That which does not kill us makes us stronger."